“So no one told you life was gonna be this way… Your job’s a joke, you’re broke, your love life’s D.O.A… It’s like you’re always stuck in second gear… When it hasn’t been your day, your week, your month, or even your year… I’LL BE THERE FOR YOUUU!!”
Yep. You guessed it. We’re talking all about FRIENDS today! (P.S. if you didn’t sing along to that, I’m not mad–I’m just disappointed.)
Let’s cut straight to the point. Making friends has never come easy for me. For the vast majority of my life, I’ve been insanely shy. My friend group mainly consisting of siblings and close cousins. Not that hard to believe, right? On the other hand, my little sister could befriend a stranger on the street if she wanted. (a social skill that I deeply envy)
We can probably recall our parents warning us of the “dangers of internet creeps”. And while I could sit here and preach about how negatively technology has affected this generation, I’m going to choose to do the opposite. With precaution, I like to think that social media has certainly played a part in helping us anti-social peeps branch out. Coming from personal experience, I’ll tell you that 90% of my current friendships have blossomed through the internet! Oh what a time to be alive! *sorry mom*
While I don’t believe that on-screen relationships should be the ONLY form of connection, I DO think it makes for an easier approach! At least in the beginning. At least for me. I swear I can be the most awkward and anxious person ever when you first meet me! I get in my head, and overthink it all. Shocking, I know. But let’s be real–sending a message, liking a post, leaving a comment, all of those things are simple steps towards forming real connections with others! May not seem like much at the beginning, but it’s only the tip of the iceberg, baby!
Honestly, I met some of my closest, dearest friends simply because one of us made the move and “slid into the DMs”. haha For example: I know several lovely people from other states/countries that I met through the Instagram discover page…mutual friends that popped up on my Facebook feed and we instantly clicked…or even old acquaintances that years later we reconnected on Snapchat. As a fellow introvert, I feel so grateful that we have access to these platforms! Creating new ways to expand our circle and grow our tribe. Allowing us to reach far more people than just our town’s population.
At the end of the day, I don’t want this to encourage you to depend solely on virtual relationships. That, my dear, is probably not very healthy… I’m just here to be your FRIENDly reminder of all the helpful avenues we have right at our finger tips! Utilize them. Take a chance! Send that friend request, shoot that DM, invite someone to coffee, get to know each other! (Both the old and the new.) It’s a worth a shot, I promise!
***This is getting a bit long-winded now, so I’ll wrap things up. But I definitelyyy want to continue digging deeper into the topic of FRIENDSHIP (especially as adults) and further this conversation! I think it’s very important for us to remember how normal it is to feel afraid; of rejection, of toxicity, or loss. We tend to automatically jump to worst case scenarios, but next time, let’s try to focus on the best case! How GREAT this friendship could turn out to be, and how important it is to have those bonds. Like Proverbs 27:9 says, “A SWEET FRIENDSHIP REFRESHES THE SOUL.”***
Until next time,
Stay social, darling!