This is for all the people out there that are learning to love themselves in a world that’s constantly telling them not to…
Last week we talked about self-care, this week is about self-love! I always try to choose my blog topics based on relevance in my life at the time–which is exactly what led me to this. As you probably know, a few months ago I moved from Missouri to Arizona! And while the midwest is currently being slammed with ice and snow storms, I’ve been wearing summer attire all week. #blessed On that note, the other day I went to get dressed and couldn’t pull my denim shorts up past my thighs. Once I finally got them over my ass, there’s no way in hell they were gonna button! I honestly let it slide, went online and ordered a couple cute new pairs and moved on. When my package arrived, of course I was so excited to try them out; and to my surprise, they didn’t fit. I had gone up entirely 2 sizes and they wouldn’t button…again. Talk about a slap in the face.
Being the way that I am, I tried to be tough about it and act like it didn’t bother me. Pretending I was fine as I struggled to shimmy out and fold them back up. But no, I was not fine. A moment later I had my face buried in Mitchell’s shoulder, crying about my body. A very humbling and eye opening moment for myself. For as long as I can remember I’ve been fairly small. It’s a running joke and honestly just became part of my identity. No perky boobs or curvy hips like my sisters were blessed with… Just stick thin little ole me. But what I didn’t realize was that over the last few years, I’ve grown. My thighs got fuller and my butt got bigger; something I knew was changing, but hadn’t fully accepted yet.
Needless to say, Mitchell was so good to me and reassured my beauty even though it was the last thing I felt. All my life I’ve been envious of everyone’s “womanly curves” and now here they are, staring back at me in the mirror. Nothing negative or shameful about it! Yet I felt crushed.
We have to remember it’s okay if we don’t always feel body positive or body love, try body RESPECT first!
Immediately I texted my sisters to get their opinions on the topic. My heart just aches at the thought of how many people experience these feelings ALL THE TIME, simply because of a stupid number on a tag or a scale! That number WILL change, it’s a part of life–but it does NOT define your worth! My little sister said that it feels both better and worse when you realize how many people feel the very same way. It’s so so true.
In the end, even a million “likes” will never be enough if you don’t like yourself first. We have to find that acceptance deep with ourselves and start obsessing over the things we LOVE, not HATE. The mind is a powerful tool and I’d rather it be used for good and not evil, wouldn’t you? Loving your body isn’t about thinking your body looks good, it’s knowing your body is good, regardless of how it looks!
I took some polls on my social media and the results broke my heart, but sadly didn’t surprise me… Almost 100% of people voted that they had felt negative, critical and insecure about themselves at one point (myself included). Lately I’ve been trying very hard to just let myself be. Bloated in a crop top? That’s natural. Breakouts on your face? It happens. Tummy rolls or cellulite when you sit down? So normal. The more we start normalizing our bodies for what they are, the more empowered we will feel. We’ve been criticizing ourselves for years and it hasn’t worked, so let’s try approving of ourselves and see what happens!
In case you missed the others, this is actually my 3rd body image/self-love inspired post, so please feel free to check those out here and here. I love getting new thoughts and opinions on such a popular topic! Time to unlearn everything society has taught you about hating your body, and start showing it some love and appreciation! Please don’t let your mind bully your body. You’re worth so much more than that, I promise.
Until next time,
Stay accepting, darling!