I feel like this is a hot topic right now and a word you’ve probably heard tossed around a lot! For good reason, I would argue. Contrary to some beliefs, BOUNDARY is not a bad word!
Do I need boundaries?
Let’s take it back to the basics–the definition says: “A boundary is a line that marks the limits of an area; is a dividing line”. Simple enough to start, right? Bear with me.
Everyone’s boundaries are different.
Based on our own personal preferences and priorities, your boundaries and mine won’t look the same. These can be set in many aspects of life: relationships//family//work//etc. It’s important to remember that both physical and emotional limits are needed in their own way.
A boundary dictates how we expect and allow ourselves to be treated. This is extremely helpful for maintaining healthy and respectful situations that you may find yourself in.
Boundaries are not going to be easy.
Stepping outside of your norm and putting your foot down in instances that you may not be used to can feel tough… When you try establishing lines that others aren’t used to being there, there may be pushback or confusion. But please do not take this as a sign that it’s WRONG. You standing up for yourself and calling the shots in your life is so admirable and nothing to be ashamed of!
((my boyfriend got me this book as a birthday present during a tough year, and it has single-handedly changed my life!))
When are boundaries necessary?
If a person or place is draining you, that’s a good sign to reassess the lines you’ve previously established and set new ones. If you remember anything, let it be this: “Other people’s reaction to your boundaries is NOT a reflection on you but on them.”
Helpful Tips on Where to Begin
- Identify what sets off your desire for boundaries…
- Have clear communication of where you stand…
- Protect your values and choices…
- Set and maintain even when it feels tricky…
- Get used to saying and hearing the word NO…
If you have been struggling with the lack of boundaries in your day-to-day life and you need a friendly reminder that it’s OKAY to set them…here you go! Pin this post and save it for later when you need to refresh your memory and feel confident enough to stick up for yourself!
(also, go buy that book and thank me later) 🙂